Monday, January 28, 2013

A Milestone Come and Gone

My hard drive decided to spontaneously combust the week before last leaving me without a computer and taking three years worth of stuff with it.  You'd think starting from scratch would be fun, you know like Christmas morning opening up a new computer.  Ha!  Not even close!  Anyway while that was happening, our one year anniversary of being in China came and went.  This is a wee bit annoying because I was looking forward to putting up a year in review through pictures.  Remember the bull's cock and balls at the grocery store?  Fun fun fun!  Well change of plans.  I haven't any pictures for you.  I was going to post from my phone but its China and things such as that are really not as simple as one might think.

So I will paint a picture with words instead.  Go ahead and get comfy, it could be a long story.

On January 22, 2012 the kids and I arrived exhausted at 2:30 am into the Chengdu airport.  Eyes puffy from lack of sleep, crying from my ordeal of handing over the Chihuahua at the Shanghai airport, kids exhausted from only managing a couple of hours of sleep in 30 or so hours of traveling and thus began our China Life. 

For five nights we stayed at the Shangri La before moving into a giant, empty and fffffffreezing cold apartment.  Every step out the door was an adventure.  We walked everywhere.  And when we weren't walking, we were on the Metro zipping up and down Line One, walking to the office to visit K and drinking more Starbucks coffee than I ever have in my life. 

After a month reality started to set in.  We had explored everything within walking distance and catching taxis was proving difficult.  The kids were getting bored and I was getting depressed.  I tried to make things fun but the staring and the touching were getting on everyone's nerves. 

Thankfully we started to meet some people and Spring comes early in Chengdu bringing forth the cherry blossoms in every shade of pink you can imagine.  But homesickness is hard to shake.  The first three months were the hardest and just when I thought I couldn't take it anymore we got a reprieve and went to Dubai.  The sunshine and fresh air was exactly what we needed.  And it wasn't long after that that we were back in Canada for the summer. 

Its really hard to believe that it's been a year.  Sometimes I think wow!  That year just flew by and other times I think its a miracle I didn't jam a chopstick through my eye and put myself out of my misery.

Having the kids in school has been so good for them and for me.  They are getting an amazing learning experience with kids from all over the world and teachers from all over the world bringing their experiences and techniques you wouldn't get anywhere else.  F is learning violin and both kids are learning Chinese which is very valuable in my opinion.  And being on my own has given  me the chance to see things for myself and work on ME.

But to be honest, I don't want to celebrate a second anniversary in China.  I think we've learned  a lot about patience and compassion and we will be better more well rounded people for it but there are just too many things that drive me crazy here.  I think we need to get out while we're ahead! And the kids are ready to go home too.  They miss their friends and their pets.  And sadly most of the friends they have made here are moving elsewhere at the end of June.  This is playing heavily on their hearts knowing that starting school in August would mean making all new friends.

My Mom is coming on Saturday to spend three weeks with us.  I look forward to seeing China through a tourists' eyes and not my own (biased, 'time-hardened') ones.  We will take her to Beijing and Xian over Chinese New Year where we will be tourists because we've never been to either of those cities.  It should be exciting!

So those are my thoughts and feelings on our year in China.  We have seen some amazing things that we never would have experienced otherwise and we have also seen some not so amazing things, some downright gross things and things that make me so angry I want to scream.  Canada isn't a perfect country  but living here has certainly reminded me of what I have taken for granted.  Living here has made want to be a better person. 

Friday, January 11, 2013

Little Pictures have big ears

Pictures; pitchers not sure which its actually supposed to be but my mom has always said pictures and her mom said pictures so that's what I'm going with.  So anyway, point is:  your kids hear everything you say even if you don't realize that they hear.  Case in point:  my dear sweet darling five year old boy dropped the F Bomb at school on Thursday.  Mortified doesn't even come close to how I feel.  I know I'm at fault.  I say the F word even though I try hard not to say it in front of my kids.(You probably would too if people were trying to run you over on a daily basis.)  I never really thought it needed addressing because my daughter thinks anything beyond the word poop is a bad word, so I assumed(you know about assumptions) that kids using bad adult words wasn't going to be an issue.  Clearly I was wrong!  After a talk about 'the word' and telling the boy child that if his friends parents found out he was teaching their kids this word then he might not be allowed to play with them anymore, he went to bed feeling rather sheepish. 

Yesterday I talked to Mr. R, my son's teacher about it and he agreed to talk to the class about how to treat other people and what being a good friend means.  He told me at the end of the day that S's eyes got wide and he sort of shrunk into himself when his teacher started talking about name calling.  He knew what it was about! 

I know that in reality some kids swear.  They just do.  They hear it at school, they hear it from movies, parents, people on the street etc but I don't want to encourage that in my own children nor do I want them to be the kids in school using the bad words! 

So I guess as well as my resolution to be happy no matter what, I also need to curb my swearing.  Its hard to break a bad habit especially when I live in a place that is so different from where I came from and all I want to do is scream at the top of my lungs, "why are you so f**king stupid?!" to the people in the grocery store.  I won't.  I'm probably already known as the crazy laowai anyway.  No more F word. 

I'll work on it...

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Where's the Logic?

I made my morning trip to the grocery store today to grab ingredients for Minestrone Soup for dinner and I was feeling like dumplings for lunch.  Upon reaching the section where the fresh dumplings are located I noticed that the date on the tag was wrong.  It said 2013-01-04 to 2013-01-05.  Okay well I know its the 9th today so either they punched the wrong date in or someone forgot to make fresh dumplings.  I showed a package to the nearest store employee and then punched are these made today?  into my translator.  She gives me some sort of non committing shrug while she texts on her phone.  Okay.  A store manager then comes over and he explains to me in veeeeeeerrrrrryyy slow Chinese something.  I smile and tell him in Chinese that I don't understand what he's saying and show him my translator asking if they are fresh.  So then he gets out his phone and starts scribbling away in Chinese then shows it to me.  I was waiting for him to hit the 'translate' button which will magically change it into English.  I guess there wasn't a magic button.  Okay so logic would suggest that if a person(me) doesn't understand what you are saying in Chinese then I'm likely not going to understand written Chinese either!  Just sayin'.

Friday, January 4, 2013

The Cherry on the Top of the Christmas Cake

We told the kids no presents this year- going on vacation was their gift from us plus stocking stuffers because Santa can't stop doing 'his' job just because we're on vacation!  Anyway Christmas morning was a slow relaxed affair mainly because my husband K was nursing a pair of seriously sun burnt legs.  Let me tell you he will never forgo sunscreen again!(10 days later and he's still shedding like a snake!)

We had decided before leaving for Malaysia that we weren't going to risk our Christmas dinner to any old hotel restaurant so we made a reservation at the Shangri-La Rasa Ria.  We eat at the Shangri-La Chengdu regularly and knew we would get an amazing Christmas dinner.  So off we went.  Its a beautiful resort!  As we were sitting down the sun started to set which sent me running for the beach with my camera.  At our own resort the sun dips behind a hill before touching the water so this was our one and only glimpse at a tropical sunset.

It was spectacular!   The cherry on the top of the Christmas cake!



And just like that it was gone.  

Time for a drink!  A Kinabalu Cooler. (Although pretty to look at I have to be honest and tell you Moxie's back home does better drinks than I had on this whole trip!)

Dinner was delicious- turkey, chestnut stuffing, Brussels sprouts, everything in between and dessert.  It wasn't my Mom's turkey dinner but it was pretty darn good!

Thursday, January 3, 2013

The Highlight of our Vacation

On December 22nd we got on a boat from Jesselton Point and headed to Gaya Island for some Jungle Trekking.  We were the only ones on this tour so we were able to go at our own pace, stop to take lots of pictures and ask questions of our guides.  Two dogs from the village accompanied us which was fun because we love dogs but probably scared off any jungle critters we might possibly have been able to see otherwise.  We did see thousands of ants marching across our path and a monkey made an appearance though he was none too happy about our canine friends.



 After our Jungle Trek on Gaya Island we were picked up and taken across the channel to Sapi Island where we had a Malay BBQ lunch- whole grilled fish, rice, prawns, crab etc.  Yum!  Then it was time for some snorkeling!

Getting ready to take the plunge!

 What are you lookin' at?

Nemo and Family


Coral destroying sea urchins.  Pretty.  But someone should really eat them so they leave the reefs alone.

A Cuttlefish!  We were so excited to see this guy!  Even the guide said he had never seen one there.



The Sea was amazing!  The pictures really don't do the colors justice but a great reminder of the fun we had.  The water was so buoyant that it was effortless to snorkel for hours but good grief don't get any of it in your mouth!  I grew up near the ocean but I've never tasted salt water this salty!  Blech! 

This day was definitely the highlight of the vacation!  Sort of regretting not going a second time but I guess that's what future vacations are for!

Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Rain, Sand and Sunset

We saw a few good rain storms while in Malaysia.  This of course didn't stop us from having fun because it stayed deliciously warm despite soaking us to the bone.  But when you're in your bathing suit, what difference does it make right?

Preliminary plans for a sandcastle

A glorious golden sunset despite the rain




Doesn't get much better than that!